Do You Feel Equal?
Do you feel equal when you are with someone? Or do you tend to judge the person you are with?
Do you think of them as shorter, taller, cuter, uglier, skinnier, more filled out, richer, poorer, smarter, dumber, more athletic, clumsier or whatever?
If you do, guess what. If you think someone else is better than you in some way, you are conveying the situation of lack to your brain -- they have something and you don't. The more lack you convey to your brain, the more lack your brain will bring into your life.
If you think someone else is worse than you in some way, you are conveying the situation of judging to your brain, making you "better" than they are. The more we feel better than someone else, the more the ugly connotation of "pride" comes into our lives. (Pride is not always bad, but it usually is in this type of situation.)
Neither situation is win/win, which is the point of all this learning, isn't it? We want to better ourselves, not make us better than others. Do you see the difference?
Only you can decide if that feeling is what you want. And, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm assuming the feeling of lack or pride isn't something you are striving for. They certainly don't fit in your "Power Picture", do they?
Whichever of the two feelings you are portraying to your brain, you probably want to change it, right?
Change it to what, you may ask. How about if you change it to a feeling of thankfulness or joy or any other positive emotion?
NOTE: If you aren't feeling something good like thankfulness or joy, you will probably keep the feeling of lack or pride until you do replace it with something.
You've had these feelings for a long time, no doubt, and by now you realize they haven't gotten you where you want to go. Right? So, why not try being thankful and/or joyous in ALL situations and see where that gets you?
Why should you, you ask?
You should, because if you always judge people, whether it be that they are better or worse than you, nothing will change. There will always be someone shorter, taller, cuter, uglier, skinnier, more filled out, richer, poorer, smarter, dumber, more athletic, clumsier or whatever. BUT, if you make a conscious effort to stop judging, you will find yourself enjoying life more, no matter who you are with or what they are.
Try it! Every time you have that "judging" feeling, purposely/consciously change the feeling to one of thankfulness and/or joy. See how your life changes. When we feel good, good things happen to us. What goes around, comes around.
Thanks for reading,
Jan
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